What does God expect from a man?
In a world filled with diverse perspectives on what it means to be a man, the Bible offers a clear and compelling vision of true masculinity. God's expectations for men are rooted in His desire for them to reflect His character and live out their faith with integrity. Let’s consider four key biblical and transformative qualities God expects from men.
1. Humility Before God
Humility is the foundation upon which all other virtues are built. It is the recognition of one's dependence on God and a willingness to submit to His will. In 1 Peter 5:5-7, we are reminded to "clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because 'God opposes the proud but shows favour to the humble.'" Humility allows men to lead with grace, acknowledging their limitations and seeking guidance from above.
Jesus Christ is the ultimate model of humility. He, who was equal with God, chose to take on human form and serve others, even to the point of death on the cross (Philippians 2:5-8). Men are called to emulate this humility, recognising that true strength lies not in self-reliance but in dependence on God.
2. Protecting and Providing for the Family
The Bible emphasises the role of men as protectors and providers for their families. This is not just about financial provision but also about spiritual leadership and protection. In 1 Timothy 5:8, it is written, "Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever." Men are called to create a safe and nurturing environment where their families can thrive.
The concept of protection extends beyond physical safety to include spiritual guidance. Men are expected to lead their families in prayer, Bible study, and service to others, setting an example of godly living. As Psalm 128:1-2 notes, "Blessed are all who fear the Lord, who walk in obedience to him. You will eat the fruit of your labour; blessings and prosperity will be yours."
3. Leadership with Integrity
Leadership is a critical aspect of biblical manhood. Men are called to lead their families and communities with integrity, demonstrating a commitment to righteousness and justice. In Proverbs 1:7, it is written, "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction." True leaders fear God and seek His wisdom in all their decisions.
Jesus taught that leadership is not about dominance but about service. In Mark 10:42-45, He said, "You know that those who are regarded as rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant." Men are called to lead with a servant's heart, putting the needs of others before their own.
4. Spiritual Discipline: Pursuing Growth in Faith
God expects men to actively cultivate their relationship with Him through consistent spiritual disciplines. Paul encouraged Timothy: "Train yourself to be godly. For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things" (1 Timothy 4:7-8). This training involves regular prayer, Scripture study, worship, and fellowship.
King David modelled this spiritual hunger when he wrote: "As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, my God" (Psalm 42:1). Despite his royal responsibilities and military campaigns, David prioritised his relationship with God above all else.
Spiritual discipline isn't about earning God's favour but positioning ourselves to receive His grace and guidance. It's the intentional development of habits that deepen our connection with God and align our hearts with His purposes.
Looking to Jesus: The Perfect Model
In Jesus Christ, we find the perfect embodiment of these qualities. He walked in complete integrity, demonstrated unparalleled courage, exemplified servant leadership by washing His disciples' feet, and maintained perfect communion with the Father through spiritual discipline. As Hebrews 12:2 urges, we should be "fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith."
This focus on Christ will help men as they pursue true godly manhood in a world filled with conflicting and unhealthy presentations. It’s what God expects from a man.
For His Name’s Sake
C. L. J. Dryden
Shalom
Reflections to Make
- Where do I need to grow in humility? Are there areas where pride or self-reliance are hindering my relationship with God or my leadership in the family?
- How can I better protect and provide for my family? What steps can I take to ensure that my family feels safe and supported, both physically and spiritually?
- How can I cultivate spiritual discipline? What practices can I adopt to remain steadfast in faith and grow in the grace and knowledge of Jesus Christ?
Actions to Take
- Meditate on a scripture that emphasises one of these qualities each week. Reflect on how it applies to your life and what changes you need to make.
- Identify one area where you need to improve and create a plan to work on it over the next month. This could involve seeking accountability from a friend or mentor.
- Engage in a service project with your family or community. This can help you develop leadership skills while serving others.
Prayer for God's Sake
- Pray for humility to recognise your dependence on God and to submit to His will.
- Ask for strength to protect and provide for your family, both physically and spiritually.
- Seek wisdom to lead with integrity and to make decisions that honour God.
